I am a perfectionist, procrastinator, privileged, gay, knowledgeable, open-minded, my best friend and worst enemy, but first and foremost, I am a human being.
In a world free of judgement and labels I think society would be completely turned on its head. I can only write from the perspective of a world that is judgmental and labelled. Asking how others would see me in a label-less and judgmentally free world would require labels and judgement.
We couldn’t live very effectively in a world without labels, they help our brains to identify and organise groups of objects or beings, I don’t think labels are the problem, the possible negative thought/intent or judgement behind them from the people that use them are the issue.
But if I was empowered to just be myself by others, I’d have had every belief in me from the start and I would just go ahead and do whatever my heart desired. I’d be confident and love myself. We aren’t generally shown much either by example or word to value ourselves, but you can change that starting with you, with what you think to yourself and what you think about and say to others.
So, onto descriptors. Of the few words I used to describe myself this is the one I have a problem with.
Gay. Gay is accurate to describe me in that I love women, gay is inaccurate to describe me in that it places me in the female preferred, definitive group that’s part of LGBT+, and that as long as your actions are in line there is no problem. Think of concepts like being a “gold star,” the intolerance to other humans in our community is disappointing. Is it in fear of not being taken seriously? What I’m seeing in the lesbian community is a similar mindset to a common homophobic straight male’s.
I’ve lived my whole life being negatively judged in one way or another, labelled as this or that. I know how it has made me feel so why would I perpetuate that? I absolutely believe everybody deserves to be accepted for who they are as a human being.
I didn’t write this with much analyzation or deliberate portrayal of my life, but that is me. I’m subject to change. My life is affected by but is not about my past.
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