Originally published on August 15, 2012 on Emelina Minero Writes.
I am Emelina.
I am a writer, a journalist, an artist, a runner, a nature lover, a caffeine junkie and deeply connected to my family. I am a feminist, a cheese lover and extraordinarily competitive, as well as chill and low key. I love trying new things, new foods and traveling. I want to live all over the world, and all over the states.
I’m a huge sci-fi/fantasy lover. I’ve had four Halloween themed birthday parties, in August. This August marked Halloween themed party number four. And my 16th birthday was spent at a Buffy Convention with my mom where I got to take pics with some of the actors and got loads of autographs.
I’m an intelligence shark. I thrive off of learning new things and problem solving. I learned Chess at around 7 and loved it. I fell in love with math at 6-years-old. At 12, I wrote a term paper on the stock market. I have loved reading forever. I’m not too much into the stock market now, but I just love learning. This past weekend I learned the fundamentals of pool, and now I want to dominate it.
I love trees and deep, dark emerald green. I love smiles and how they can light up a room and completely give a 180 to someone’s day.
I am a media junkie, an internet junkie and a social media junkie. I am a lover of people, a lover of dancing, a lover of new experiences, a lover of languages and cultures and a lover of living outside of my comfort zone.
I’m newly exploring wine, especially because I live in the Wine Country!
I am, I am, I am – a lovely individual. I’m a lot of things, but first and foremost, I am a human being.
I am a lover of art and creation.
I built a tree out of cardboard and used it as a medium for collage.
I do SoulCollage®. I LOVED art class in elementary school, and was disappointed when they changed it to chorus. I remember one class we got an assignment to draw a rose with chalk, and the background would be a rippling effect of the outline of the rose. I drew a rose, drew the Titanic in the background and the rippling effect of the rose outside of that. The art instructor told me I wasn’t following directions and had to erase or smudge out my Titanic and follow the assignment. What a horrible thing for an adult to tell a child, to stifle their creativity.
I took laissez faire-esque painting classes from fourth grade through ninth grade and used acrylic paints. I tried watercolor a few times, but I didn’t like the medium. In high school, I put on a Halloween Carnival, choreographed a dance-comedy skit for one of the talent shows and wrote, directed, produced and hosted a play/variety show for the community for my senior project, which I donated the profits to a non-profit, Una Vida, which brings kids from the United States to the Dominican Republic to build homes, revamp the schools and really connect with the people and become part of the community.
In college, I took an oil painting class for a year where I painted on gessoed and ungessoed canvases, wood, frames, birthday cardboard gift boxes, on anything. I took an acting class for a semester, a darkroom photography class for a semester and a filmmaking class for a semester where I made a rough cut of a 40-minute documentary that focused on the transition of my college from a woman’s college to a coed college and how that would impact our school and traditions. I was the only student in that class. I used the documentary as my submission to be selected in one of the college’s spirit groups, the Etas. Here’s the intro to it:
I minored in Creative Writing where I explored microfiction, poetry, screenplay writing, playwriting and short fiction. I also wrote and edited for my school newspaper for 3 years and was the Editor-in-Chief my senior year.
I love creation, whether it’s in event planning, painting, writing or being on or behind the stage.
I’m very competitive and spirited.
From elementary school through college, no one out beat me in spirit. In high school during spirit week, people would find me to compare their outfits, and they would walk away disappointed.
In college, I was chosen as one of the spirit leaders for my school, an Eta.
I was chosen as the most spirited person in my class.
In high school, my favorite class was Leadership. I loved community building, putting on events and bringing people together. That didn’t change in college or in post-grad life.
Post-grad, I’ve been exploring my passions, seeking balance in life, developing an active self-love practice and have been trying to figure out how to make my passions become my career. My post-grad life has consisted of dipping into web design, internet marketing, social media, editing, writing, volunteering in the eating disorder recovery community, backpacking for two months along the East Coast, creating a LGBTQA club at the local junior college, working at a bookstore for a while, doing freelance work, working on building a local queer community in my hometown, exploring more of San Fran, exploring more of the queer community, taking on in-person and online mentors in internet marketing and digital nomadism and helping people whenever they ask for it.
A lot of this evolved into community building, online and offline, but definitely a lot of online community building. I built Community Bucket List (which is temporarily offline) to help bring more focus into my life and others. Community Bucket List is a community that helps and supports people on taking action on their goals and dreams in the present moment so they can live a life of passion.
I built the Love Warrior Community with my mom, which uses art, music, writing, images and video to help people love themselves and their bodies.
I play a large part in managing Curve Magazine’s online community.
I’m largely involved in the digital nomad, eating disorder recovery, women entrepreneurial and queer online communities.
I am also creating a queer publication, The Human Experience, and myself and a team of other amazing individuals are growing this community, online and offline.
I love community building, spirit and creating larger projects and events because I love bringing people together and making people feel special.
In my first year of college, I made handmade Valentine cards for everyone on my floor, left them by their doors and decorated the dorm walls. A lot of people feel negative on Valentine’s Day and I wanted them to start their days with a positive thought.
My passion lies in helping people see and deeply feel their value, their beauty and the unique passions they have to offer themselves and the world. I love supporting people in living their passions. I love making people feel happy and special.
It’s really cool to do something good for someone else, and then to see them light up. And it’s super cool to then see them meet and exceed their potential and do great things and impact others with their positive energy and actions.
I love people. I love people so much. Every individual is like an unexplored and untapped universe. To be able to genuinely connect with someone else, to see the world through their eyes – there’s no better high.
I want to change the world for the better. I want to live my life guided by my passions and by love, love for myself and love for others, and I want to help support others in living a happy life so we can each spread our happiness and passions to the world. I want to change the world through bringing people together, through helping foster a global community and through helping people live their passions.
I am Emelina Minero, and no other human being has the same exact experiences or outlook on life as me. Every person is different, no matter what labels we may or may not share.
I am Mexican-American. I am a lesbian. I am 25-years-old. I am a daughter, an aunt, a niece, a granddaughter, a cousin, a sister and a friend. I’m a good person.
I am a human being, and a second class citizen by the eyes of larger society. I can’t get legally married. I can in a handful of states, but it’s not recognized federally, which means if I move to any other state, I don’t get any of the rights given to other married couples. If not legally married, and my wife were dying or sick in the hospital, I wouldn’t be able to see her since I wouldn’t legally be family. Legally and financially, we wouldn’t be connected. We wouldn’t be able to do a lot of things, like share insurance.
Adoption is made more difficult for me. Same-sex couples adopting is illegal in some countries and in some U.S. states.
I can be fired in 29 of the US states just because I’m a lesbian. I can also be denied housing or evicted from 29 states just because I’m a lesbian, and my trans* friends can be fired from their jobs, denied housing or evicted from 35 states. (http://www.friendfactor.org/)
We’re Treated Differently:
Gay men cannot donate blood if they have had sex.
Being gay is punishable by death in other countries. You can be hanged, decapitated, stoned and flogged. You can also be imprisoned. (http://www.ranker.com/list/7-worst-capital-punishments-for-being-_illegally_-gay/joanne)
“The District of Columbia and 47 states have anti-hate crime laws, however only 24 states and the District of Columbia include sexual orientation in their legislation.” (http://www.dosomething.org/tipsandtools/11-facts-about-gay-rights)
“In the U.S., 75% of students have no state laws to protect them from harassment and discrimination in school based on their sexual orientation. In public high schools, 97% of students report regularly hearing homophobic remarks from their peers.” (http://www.dosomething.org/tipsandtools/11-facts-about-gay-rights)
“Of the estimated 1.6 million homeless American youth, between 20% and 40% identify as LGBT. In one study, 26% of gay teens who came out to their parents/guardians were told they must leave home; LGBT youth also leave home due to physical, sexual and emotional abuse. Also, LGBT youth report they are threatened, belittled and abused at shelters by staff as well as other residents.” (http://www.dosomething.org/tipsandtools/11-facts-about-gay-rights)
Here’s a great chart on rights that we are allotted and not allotted in the United States, http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/interactive/2012/may/08/gay-rights-united-states.
In media and in real life, I’m saturated with anti-gay media and with anti-gay sentiments.
I knew I was attracted to women when I was 5-years-old, but I didn’t come out until I was 18-years-old. I was scared because of how I saw people react to same-sex couples and queer-identified people. I felt alone and isolated and I had to learn how to allow people to get close to me, to use my voice and to truly see my value.
We all have hardships and personal struggles, but I don’t want anybody to have to feel scared to be themselves because of something as arbitrary as their sexual orientation. It’s ridiculous.
Being closeted for my childhood and pivotal developmental periods in my life has greatly shaped me. This is why I am so passionate about helping others, helping others see their value, use their voice, live their passions, feel special, feel listened to and feel a part of a community. I didn’t feel safe or comfortable in allowing myself to have these things with my peers growing up. I had some best friends, and I had a lot of friends, but I never completely opened up to any of them. It feels so lonely, and that’s a horrible gift to give to children, or to anybody, to make them feel less than, fearful of being themselves and isolated. Nobody should make another human being feel that way, but many people do, and that’s something I want to have no part in.
I am Emelina Minero. I am a human being, and I want people to see me as me, not only as my labels. I am a human being, and I hope to contribute to helping humanity remove their blindfolds, open their hearts and really see others for who they are, other human beings.
What is The Human Experience? It is the validity in your story and the story of 7,000,000,000 other people in this world. How do you put a label on being human? You don’t. You open your heart and listen. This is the foundation of our publication,The Human Experience, and we want to hear your story. Join us in spreading the diversity of the human experience with the world by sharing your story. Find out how to share your story with the world.